Most people in a romantic relationship (intending couples and even couples) might have planned one or two things to give their spouse or fiancé as February 14 draws close. However, deep within every man or woman is a longing that goes beyond materials, a deep and constant need for attention, listening, and care. No matter how much you give your spouse a gift I speak on their behalf that they want you, your attention, your listening, your time, your care, they want you. We injure ourselves when we replace quality time with our family with expensive gifts. Gifts are good, but they cannot replace personality. If people wanted just gifts, they would have married just a teddy. But no, they wanted a person, one who has feelings, who is relational.
Spend time listening. Spend time contributing. Spend yourself, not merely your money. For God to express His love, He gave Himself, we too must do the same. Gifts alone cannot fill the depth of a person’s longing in a relationship.
Imagine a man and in a relationship with a lady (with marriage in view) and for six (6) months of your relationship you cannot think of anything she has ever asked you. You have tested her by asking ‘What do you want'? and her answer repeatedly was “I want you, you, you.” I know one who does that.
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